Some people are just lucky in love; I like to think that is
the case with my Steve and I. We were teenage sweethearts and after being
together 6 years we got married in 2011. The icing on the cake when we got
married was that he supported my desire to keep my maiden name and took a very
unusual choice of changing his so that we were unified by name- as you can
imagine for a man to relinquish his name to take that of his wife opens up a
whole new can of worms in terms of opinions of such a choice. This solidifies
not only that as long as we are a couple we can overcome anything, but that he
truly does feel part of my family.
Since we tied the knot it has been a whirlwind of changes in
our lives, from buying our home, travelling the world, to changing jobs and in
my case leaving my job entirely.
Why am I bringing this up? Well, nothing I do would be quite
as enjoyable if it weren’t for the support of my husband, for me he is the
metaphorical rock that so many people look for in life. Support comes in so
many forms, and he displays all of them at all times. Emotional and financial support
is invaluable in all relationships, I am lucky enough to have a husband and
family who do not think twice to provide either of these things if I or we need
it.
I find myself so wrapped up in my plans for travelling that when
people gasp at me in reply to the information that I am going away without my
husband for three months, I have to stop and think. I will be off on an
adventure, meeting new people and trying new things, but it is him that will
have to come home to an empty house, and eat alone most nights. At what cost to
our relationship will my trip be? I hope there will only be a positive effect,
and that most certainly he will come to see that even if I am not around he has
a network of friends and family will rally round him if he needs it. As they
say, absence makes the heart grow stronger.
Just to be on the safe side, to ensure that he survives
while I am away, I have been busy making home cooked meals and freezing them – something
I consider to be a bit of a comfort at least. As I know he has a terrible
memory, I have also organised things for all the birthdays and events that I
will miss while I am away. So, when something slips by him he won’t feel guilty
as at least I prepared everything! My friends and family have strict instructions to
keep him amused for the next few months, if anything he will be busier than
ever while I am away!
Kx
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